Your Serenity is Attached to What You Expect

My name is Matt Farmsworth and I have been sober for many many years. I was a tragic case. Welcome to my blog and articles. I hope you will find some valuable content here that may help you in life. The written word is below the video if you prefer to read this content. In this video, I explain how serenity is attached to your expectations.

The Transcription

What is the definition of insanity? Well, it is considered doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. I did this often, especially when I was in my addiction. Repeating the same behaviors every single day and expecting something to change. Isn’t that so common of people who have addictions? I know it is for me. I would set my expectations every single day to be something very different than what was achievable. Then I would do the exact same behavior and then expect this otherworldly result. In between there, you’ve got the substance, which I think causes you to believe that this expectation is somewhat achievable, but it’s not. The definition of insanity is doing the same behavior over and over again and expecting a different result. You absolutely have to step out of that and create a new pattern of behavior. That cycle that you’re in, that cycle is a cycle of insanity. The same thing over and over again. Cycle of insanity. Cycle of insanity. That model doesn’t work. Our serenity is directly is inversely proportional to our expectations. Our serenity is inversely… I forget what that one is. I need to look that up. That’s it. Serenity quote AA. Serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations. That means what I expect affects my happiness. So continuing to do the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is going to affect your serenity directly. So unless you figure out the cycles that you’re going through in your life that are on a repeat, rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat, you’re never going to have happiness. Remember, your expectations are what create your happiness. So your happiness and serenity is inversely proportional to your expectations. So that doesn’t mean set your expectations at nothing. It means live your life and try not to have expectations because it’s those expectations that set us up for failure. Simply do the work. Do the work without expectation and happiness becomes a reality.

This is an important passage from the Big Book that speaks directly to the topic of the video.

Check out this chapter of the big book. ACCEPTANCE WAS THE ANSWER. The physician wasn’t hooked, he thought—he just prescribed drugs medically indicated for his many ailments. Acceptance was his key to liberation.

I think you will find it very enlightening.

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